In 2022, I published Silicon Valley Porn Star: A Memoir of Redemption and Rediscovering the Self, the story of how I overcame an addiction to porn and sex that nearly destroyed my life.

For years, even as I rose through the ranks of the tech world, built a family, and acquired all the trappings of success, my secrets grew until they threatened to undo everything I had worked for. Luckily, when I was on the brink of losing it all, I found the guidance and support to chart a path back out of the dark. The book shares the story of how it all happened: my rise, my fall, and my redemption.

On the surface, it’s the story of a simple boy from the suburbs of New Jersey who accidentally gets rich in Silicon Valley and goes off the rails. Deeper down, though, it’s about discovering the importance and power of emotional maturity. In my addiction days, I looked like a high-achieving adult on the outside, but on the inside I was a lonely, scared boy. I didn’t know how to find safety and acceptance within myself, so I chased those feelings in the external world, making a long string of short-sighted decisions that hurt me and everyone around me. 

To stop that cycle, I had to grow up. I had to heal the wounds of my childhood. I had to let go of my false beliefs about success, happiness, and manhood. Ultimately, I had to rediscover who I was and what I cared about. Only then could I become the kind of partner, parent, leader, and man I wanted to be.